I think its all about our energy They can sense it even if we don't have contact If we can't find a way to forgiveness maybe not totally -but 75% and out of anger and hurt they can sense it and maybe feel safe to contact
The journey they are on is theirs and will take whatever amount of time needed some never recuperate and live in denial and addictions and we are powerless over their choice forgiveness takes time but helps us to heal and let go-
it was not about the marriage, the kids or us it was about their inability to navigate through life as it was and their issues of the past rarely do we hear about a MLCer leaving and advancing into a successful life with a great new partner and happiness and success instead: its usually loss of job, loss of income, drug addict partner they choose and addictive lifestyle
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow