Anyway, I'm sorry I'm rambling but I have to vent. Sorry about that. I will give more info. Just not sure what is appropriate right now.
You're welcome, and vent away Roe, that's what we're here for. To listen. I have some work to do but will be back later about some of the stuff you wrote about your wife that stuck a chord with me, about her contacting you and then starting to date before she was divorced from her first husband. Also about the OM and his toxic relationships - can you tell us more about that?
And don't worry, it's all appropriate (except for foul language) and the more you tell, the more someone or other here will be able to help.
How old are your kids?
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17