Cadet. Always a pleasure when you drop by my pad here. I do know that you are correct in that each LBS must go through their cycle. And while many of the stages are of the same flavor. The intensity and pattern of the cycle will vary. I only hope that some level of respect is maintained when they are railing against the turmoil even if they cannot wrap their head around it. Of late it just seems to me the intensity and frequency of disrespect had gone up. But I know that my time here in the neighborhood has been short all things relative, and so the full moon of insanity I am sure has risen many more times and the vets and long timers here have seen it all before. I just have to do what I do as a parent with my children when they toss that tantrum. Back away Pay it no mind. When the eyes of a sane person return, address it with them, hug it out and move forward.
Of course if it upsets you it is best to step away. And yes we see LBS's that are indeed in their own crisis, enough to make you wonder if it is not flipped around and they in fact are the reasons that the WAS leaves.
I am a firm believer that one crisis kicks off the other spouses crisis. I know I went through some very rough times after my unwanted divorce. Rooms spinning around and cholesterol shooting up to crazy high levels. Stress and depression can turn you body upside down. That is why we must take care of ourselves first!
