Obviously, there is a lot more that could be said about being happy with each other, and in the MR...........but cutting to the chase here, you are not responsible for your W's personal happiness. I mean, we shouldn't intentionally try to cause unhappiness for anyone, but we can't make another person happy..........if they don't want it. Happiness is a choice. I wanted to disagree when I first heard that statement, and then I read some books on the subject. I wanted to disagree about love being a choice, too. Well, I don't disagree, now. I have known one or two people who had such a bad attitude that they dared anyone to try to make them happy!
So, relieve yourself from that emotional pressure of trying to make your W happy. I don't have time to go into it, but I can understand how you acting on that belief, could enable your W in becoming somewhat spoiled and develop a habit of blamming you for whatever problems that cause her to feel less than perfectly happy. And, I can see how you would want to avoid conflict and/or do anything that might cause her mood to be bad.....maybe even to the point of you becoming more submissive, taking more blame, and eventually, losing sight of the man you once were.
Well, you are relieved of those incorrect responsibilities. You need to write a new job description for yourself.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
