feels never ending

[RosaLinda]

So sorry that you are going thru this with your husband MMM, and then to lose your cat too on top of everything else. You are going thru a really hard time right now, so sad for you....

I went to my therapist a few days ago and for now I am going to work on emotionally boundaries and detaching emotionally from him. Therapist recommended I focus on that and not think about the legal aspect that we are still married and not even legally separated, not think about divorce at this time, etc.

This is really good advice. Detaching was the hardest part for me, I think. And making and enforcing healthy boundaries. That's still hard -- I still don't have the emotional hardiness to make my ex stop using my house as his mailing address and texting me every day or so even though he's married to the OW LOL

Remember that boundaries are rules that you make to protect yourself, and which you can enforce. So what do you have in mind? Any thoughts? I'm glad you're doing some GAL activities, and going to the al-anon meetings. What else are you doing to detach?