It's definitely a process to create detachment while also being a lighthouse for the WS. I slipped up a LOT in the beginning and would engage when WH was being venomous. Eventually I began to view him as one of my delusional patients, they can be very nasty and accusing. They've created these false beliefs in their heads and get defensive when these beliefs are challenged. It helped me remember that WH's behavior was a symptom of something going on inside him and had nothing to do with me. Now I am seeing him peek through the fog and start to realize that while I am not perfect, I am not the villain he tried to paint me as.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
