You've been dealing with this for a long time. Its heart breaking. The only advice I can give you is to go dark and double down on your GAL. If you still have 180's to make, then go back to work on those. But you can't control him so take control of you. I'm so sorry.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
