I think she wants me to do her housework, watch her kids , take care of the yard, listen to her when she gets home from work while she continues with the OM.
Isn't that the relationship you have had? Why would she think it would be different if you were divorced? Maybe it seems a logical thinking woman (who travels around and has had several jobs) would know these things, right?
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She is a good mom when she wants to be, but she probably only sees them about 1-2 hours a day during the week.
What happens when she doesn't want to be a good mom?
Anyone can be a good parent for 1 to 2 hrs a week!
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On the weekends she will do things with them, but I don't think she really likes to do things with them on her own without me.
Seriously? Do you see this as a normal mother, much less a good one?
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I don't think we had any major problems. We didn't talk like we should. She has never been one to share stories about her past with me. She said she didn't think I would want to hear about it. Also, we very rarely ever fought, but we would hold things in and never talk about them.
So, you don't really know who you have married.
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I would rather just say I'm sorry instead of talking things out.
This needs to change immediately. You actually contribute to the breakdown in the marriage, when you have the attitude of accepting blame as being the shortcut or easier route.
There are tons of information in the links Cadet sent you.
Do you do anything to earn income while staying home with the kids? Had you rather stay home or have a full time job in the workforce?
What does your wife do when she is angry at you or the kids? How does she handle pressure?
Has she ever had therapy, that you know about?
What are the ages of you and your wife?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
