Part of me wants to hold onto this idea that she want to come back. By not responding that is still alive and it makes me feel good also even though its pure mind reading. But I must reply, stand up for me, face the reality that we are still separated.
I am all over the place with this. Up and down and sideways. Like I said before I am spinning. I though I was heading to being ok to move on but another part of me pulls at me to keep some sort of R with W. The bonds she has on me are strong and very hard to break.
Vise, I know where you're coming from here. I also find myself concerned that one minor slip-up w/ a text reply will bring the whole house crashing down. I think you're getting some good advice from folks here though, that our MR doesn't hang on each and every interaction w/ the W though. RAI was spot on w/ being quick and decisive w/ your responses. No need to drag something out bc you don't want to address it. At some point it will need to be addressed.
I'm learning these lessons as well as I grind along. This is uncharted territory for all of us and it's natural for the fear to be there. Others seem to have conquered that fear which gives me the hope we can as well.
As silly as it sounds, we're all in this together, though we're all in different spots w/ it. Keep working for you and your kids and everything will be good! Here for you brother, keep it up!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
