When she announced that she didn't want to get a D because of the financial reprocussions she'd face, but "wanted to start living like a single woman as soon as possible," I almost threw up. I had never heard anything so disrespectful and inconsiderate in my life, honestly. I replied that the loss of that support was what would happen if she were truly single, and being single is what she said would make her happy. I smiled when I said it but I was terse. She said I was being angry and that that was unfair.
Can you see how twisted her thinking has become?
Personally, I think you changed the dynamics the minute you agreed to live in a room of the house. After she explained her reasons for staying M, what did you hope to gain by giving her what she wanted? Whatever it was, strike through it, b/c it's not going to work. Living in an "in-house" separation with a wayward wife just doesn't work in favor of the H.
Have you read the threads that Cadet sent you?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
