But that has become draining of late as I see so much hurt and the more surprising thing is the bitterness that has come up. So much lashing out at those that have gone through this and are in better places and trying to help. I just don't get it. Folks that really don't have any obligation other than to pay it forward and the nastiness that is tossed at them simply because one does not like the style for which the advice is given. I mean, do you yell at the doctor that tells you to stop smoking because you have cancer?? Or tells you to stop eating like shi7 because your cholesterol is way high. WTF?!!? I'm sorry, but stop whining and look in the mirror. It is not ALL your spouses problems that you are the LBS. When you get here you say "it is all my fault my s is leaving me." Folks point out that it is not, and that it is 50/50. Then you flip and blame the WS for everything............ and get upset when you are given advice to help you out. Why the heck do you come here looking for support, when in fact it seems like you just want pity. And there I go again....ramble on..... SH, just STFU!!
Hurt people hurt others, kind of like kicking the dog, even though he gives unconditional love.
Not the first or last time this has happened.
We all heal at our own pace and in our own ways.
LBS also goes through all the stages of grief and some will deny, some will bargain, some will avoid and some will cycle through all the stages.
