I recently saw this in another thread over in the Newcomers forum:
Originally Posted By: Cld
Hi Brian, Your wife's behavior is very strange. Can you tell us more about her childhood please? In particular I would like to know if her parents got divorced, who filed for divorce, how old she was when that happened and any other traumatic experience during her childhood.
It seems you keep asking the same question over and over to other posters which brings me to ask you this: how's that helping YOU?
Or more to the point:
Are you just gathering some "research" material for your as yet to be 'written' book on how you allegedly "saved your M" by trolling other threads? My point here is that your M isn't saved--YET.
This makes no sense at all given that you have NOT yet grasped the most basic DB principles, putting them in actual practice, or truly take in the advice offered in your own threads. You are just a newbie and you've jumped to the "my M will be saved" song without putting in the hard work on yourself and your shortcomings. Makes my head scratch. Kinda like you telling people that you will run the 100 meter race at the 2020 Olympics without logging in training hours.
It is akin to putting the horse before the cart. You are getting ahead of yourself.
SLOW down. Go back and re-read the homework links Cadet provided along with advice/comments RIGHT here in your own threads. They all are valuable guideposts for you.
Let's focus on the Cld program.
-what are you doing about your controlling ways? -what are your GAL activities -what are your own reflections on your own behaviors and patterns that have contributed to the M breakdown -take an honest inventory of what you liked and didn't like about the M -what are your core values as a person
There's more....for now I'll stop and let you marinade over this post.
