Journaling is actually helping a lot. I'm trying to determine if her sharing a few things with me last night was any indication of a possible change of heart? She is still asking for info for references for apartments and asking if I had a chance to look into DIY legal separation (since I told her we had to wait on money from my parents...embarrassing, i know).
I have determined that her old therapist is helping her to leave by finding her a pro bono attorney.
After reading a lot of DB and a little DR - that truly is very unethical. She doesn't know my side of anything and she doesn't have the least bit of understanding when it comes to our relationship. She is a psychoanalyst and over-validates misplaced feelings.
However, there is not a whole lot I can do in that realm. It just worries me because my wife thinks this therapist is freakin jesus. My wife has been taking the advice of all the people who already agree with her. Hardly fair.
Only contact with W today was a few texts that she initiated when asking for apartment reference info. She started her new job today too. I have been extremely down all day - probably after effects of getting a little buzzed last night. But it felt really nice to have that horrible feeling go away for a few hours. I think I did ok at LRT last night. If she initiates it, am I supposed to avoid any meaningful conversation with her or should I engage with a 180 attitude (listening, validating, etc)? I am kind of confused on that one. I feel like if she initiates conversation and I avoid it, she will she it as the same behavior. I am going with the 180 approach on that part right now. It seems like it would make more sense.
