Hi Cid

I do not post often anymore….way to busy living life and having fun. I do check in from time to time and did notice your thread.

Here is what I see….



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Controlling. That's the main thing I believe. Which I am to some degree.

You posted this ^^^^ on 8/18 at 4:42pm.

Then I noticed that you posted on another poster thread….a suggestion that they praise his wife.

I have an opinion on the matter. Before I explain my view I want to ask you a few questions…..

1) Why do you praise your wife?

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Two days before she left we celebrated our son's birthday at a water park and the day before we ate dinner with friends all happily.

2) Did you ever ask your W if she was happy or did YOU assume it?

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The trigger was our daughter becoming 7. She had to get divorced because her parents got divorced when she was 7.

3) Do you make a lot of assumptions? If so, why?

Another question…

4) How would YOU define controlling? What does it look like to YOU?

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When can I expect to see some improvements? Maybe after the divorce is finalized? Maybe after a year from BD?

Are you in a rush?

Often things that impact others take a lot more time than what WE may want. How do you plan to deal with this?

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Who are you mach1?
What is your story?
Why should I listed to you?

I figured I would help answer this question…..

CLD = registered 6/6/16 – 211 total posts
Mach = Registered 11/4/08 – 3,886 posts

See the difference?

Continuing with my questions….

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At least you could have a timeline like everyone else. I am not going to play Sherlock Holmes.

5) Did you talk to YOUR wife this way? Were sarcastic towards her?

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I am self employed and I am very successful in what I am doing, and through the years I have learned to take advice only from the people that have achieved results and really know they are talking about.

6) Would you say that you can sometime be a bit arrogant? This is a question…not an accusation.

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Nothing, I will wait patiently for the Affair to end.

7) Why would you wait “patiently”?

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Actually I think that she already had an Affair that lasted only a few months and now she is single again.

See question 3. Is this another assumption OR do you know this for a fact?

I’ll back later to see what your response are.

I think your response will help you see some things that honestly are not always visible.

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