Yes on all your bullet points, except for "not looking for a D." She has indeed asked for a D, picked up paperwork to file ourselves, and is waiting for me to familiarize myself with it so we can fill out the forms. And I've just sat on it.
Another important bullet point: W suffers from anxiety, depression, poor impulse control, and (likely some form of) borderline personality disorder. She smokes pot each night before bed to calm her mind.
Neither of us talks about the future beyond the week.
The two baby steps for departure are: (a) the aforementioned D paperwork and (b) a moderate effort trying to get a career off the ground -- which is not working and will not work.
I believe she has a vision of a life w/o me, but they are more about her desires than concrete plans. I mean, the vision and the plans might be concrete in her head, but I doubt they are realistic in terms of supporting herself and taking care of the kids and meeting some fantastic due.
When BD #2 came in May, she wanted to initiate D immediately, and have me out of the house in June. Obviously those dates have slipped. I think the urgency was dictated by her impulsive nature. Judging by her coldness, however, I don't think her overall direction has changed.
Wearing clean underwear,
-FG
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
