lt0402, hawker and maybs thank you for your kind words.
Rose888 - you are so right its not even funny. she was busy dealing with dog stuff. What I guess bothered me the most is, I too was busy when she initially called. however, this isn't the first time an "asap" or a "hurry" gets thrown in there because she knows I will stop what I'm doing and call her. That's where I get irritated. I stop my life for her "asap" or even a simple "call me" yet this is the millionth time I ask her to call me and I constantly get "I'm busy" "i don't want to talk" or some other line.
Originally Posted By: Rose888
[quote] Emotional attachment starts when you stop mind reading and stop assuming her actions are directly related to you.
I will remember this! I have to stop emotionally mind reading her. It does me NO good.
Turns out I never replied and she called me around 10pm. W was crying, told me what happened. The gate was left open both dogs got out. Since this is a small 5lb dog, it was best to put her down. I validated, told her I was sorry she had to go through that. That it must have been really hard for her. That she handled it great. Better than I would've. no small talk. did talk about the gate, I told her she better have someone fix it (I've fixed it every time) W said she would look for someone. I finally said thank you for calling me and good night.
It made me sad W was crying. I definitely wish I could've been there for my W, hugged her, consoled her. Wishful thinking does me no good.
-have a phone coaching session in a few hrs. hopefully this will help me clear my head and get to a better emotional and mental state. I feel out of whack!
