I have read that the length of the MLC is directly proportional to the amount of NC, in other words, the more we ignore them and let them to their thing, the faster they will come out of the MLC. Also I have read that when they do come back, they will apologize for everything under the sun and they will work very hard to restore the relationship, and that's when we need to be accepting to them.
This caught my attention because I wonder about the source ^^^ right there. Just so you know, I am a reformed former badass MLCer and I do come by around this forum to lend support/assistance whenever possible.
Was that from a book or.....? I'd like to know the name of the book (or whatever source it came from).
I posted to a poster in the Newcomer forum that the MLC is not a recognized "disorder" by the APA nor is it in the DSM-IV manual. Too frequently, many therapists and psychologists are very skeptical of MLC and scoff at the notion that MLC is indeed real...not some fictionalized balding middle-aged man driving a red Ferrari with a 20-something GF.
So you could say that I am interested in learning more about the "source" you just posted here.
