My husband said that I was emotionally and verbally abusive. He was having pvcs, and a fibs. He said that he wanted to die he was so miserable.
In my mind, I was trying to communicate to let him know I wanted him to spend more time with son and I, I wanted him to wake up earlier, and I was frusturated over his chronic lateness.
(People that meet me in real life tend to say I'm pretty calm. At work I'm given the pts. That others have difficulty with, and my best friend of over 20 years laughs because she has only seen me yell once...and that was at someone who was driving really recklessly)
The only thing I can think of is that with husband, my emotions were too involved and when I thought I was communicating something he was taking it very personally.
Anyway, I think that people do unfairly label abuse. I think they don't understand that marriage requires work and patience and forgiveness and requires looking and appreciating the stuff that is important. I think it also takes a person that is capable of living a life that is not always comfortable.
A really stupid immature analogy..but I'm gonna post anyway. My husband could never handle being without air conditioning. Even in weather that wasn't stifling. When he lived with my parents it drove them crazy obviously because of the price, but also because it's summer. Summers are hot and you deal unless it's in the 90s with really High humidity levels.
Anyway. I just feel like my husband couldn't deal with a lot.
That being said, I have been reading your posts for a while, And I think your husband was very abusive. The serial cheating alone is abusive in my mind not to mention the other stuff. It is completely different.
