I'm not sure why you are the one dealing with the lawyer and drawing up paperwork if this isn't what you want. What is the 4K from your parents for? She needs to jump through the hoops of making the changes she is wanting in her life, not you.
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I'm not sure why you are the one dealing with the lawyer and drawing up paperwork if this isn't what you want. What is the 4K from your parents for? She needs to jump through the hoops of making the changes she is wanting in her life, not you.
Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.
Cristy Resource Coordinator The Divorce Busting Center 303-444-7004
4k is to sign off on the house and not make any further claims on it. I am worried that if she ends up getting an attorney, the deal we have now will fall through.
I wish I could afford a coaching session but it is not in the budget.
Journaling is actually helping a lot. I'm trying to determine if her sharing a few things with me last night was any indication of a possible change of heart? She is still asking for info for references for apartments and asking if I had a chance to look into DIY legal separation (since I told her we had to wait on money from my parents...embarrassing, i know).
I have determined that her old therapist is helping her to leave by finding her a pro bono attorney.
After reading a lot of DB and a little DR - that truly is very unethical. She doesn't know my side of anything and she doesn't have the least bit of understanding when it comes to our relationship. She is a psychoanalyst and over-validates misplaced feelings.
However, there is not a whole lot I can do in that realm. It just worries me because my wife thinks this therapist is freakin jesus. My wife has been taking the advice of all the people who already agree with her. Hardly fair.
Only contact with W today was a few texts that she initiated when asking for apartment reference info. She started her new job today too. I have been extremely down all day - probably after effects of getting a little buzzed last night. But it felt really nice to have that horrible feeling go away for a few hours. I think I did ok at LRT last night. If she initiates it, am I supposed to avoid any meaningful conversation with her or should I engage with a 180 attitude (listening, validating, etc)? I am kind of confused on that one. I feel like if she initiates conversation and I avoid it, she will she it as the same behavior. I am going with the 180 approach on that part right now. It seems like it would make more sense.
SadDad8 - 180 means that if you are doing something that doesn't work - try the opposite. If what you are doing is getting you the results you want - keep doing it.
On your earlier point, there is no fair - there is only what happens.
You can get through this - but you will need to be strong and focused on being the best SadDad8 you can be - or perhaps a GreatDad99 instead?
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
So I had to stay late at work for back to school night. W has committed to Mon to Wed until she moves out but had to work her first day today. So kids were at the sitter until i picked them up around 8pm. I drove home to see W was home from work. She was in the shower so I went to put the kids to bed. She gave them kisses and while I was reading tonthem, she left for the night. Didnt say anything, just left in her PJs. I am assuming she is going to stay at that guys house because it is much closer to her new job.
Just hurts. I didnt call, only texted to ask if she'd given her dog his meds...which she hadn't.
I wanted to ask how her first day was but I guess I will ask casually when I see her again?
Because I did get in her face when things got heated. I would never lay a hand on her but i Was, admittedly trying to get her to hit me. Lost it yesterday. Wkll not again.
I would knock this crap out ASAP.
1) Check out qt4x11's first thread. you can see the effect that this stuff has on the custody battle.
2) If youve read the first bit of DB or DR, then you should have reached the section on setting goals. How does fighting with WW like this get you closer to your goals?
Because I did get in her face when things got heated. I would never lay a hand on her but i Was, admittedly trying to get her to hit me. Lost it yesterday. Wkll not again.
I would knock this crap out ASAP.
1) Check out qt4x11's first thread. you can see the effect that this stuff has on the custody battle.
2) If youve read the first bit of DB or DR, then you should have reached the section on setting goals. How does fighting with WW like this get you closer to your goals?
Like I said....lost it and I won't again. I know that is the opposite of what I should be doing. It happened before I got the book - so since I have the book now, I feel like I have more of an understanding and it is kind of my go-to right now.
