Zues, I get that you are partly/mostly joking, but I have a bit of a reaction to your notion that all women are going to label their partners abusive if they don't get along. It can be seem as mocking by those who have actually been abused and walked on eggshells. I know you don't approve of abuse but I've also read posts whet it sounds like you almost dismiss the idea that it happens very often.
I have never been with an emotionally abusive or manipulative man until I met H (one BF with emotional problems hit me once), and I still hesitate to call him that, but I have to wonder when I reacted with getting hot and cold and my heart would be racing when he suddenly started yelling in the next room, or when I startled and cringed when he slammed his fist in the table, or when he would come quickly close up to me in anger with his shoulders squared, apparently trying to intimidate me.
Or when he would rant and yell and curse at me for a perceived neglect for 20-30 minutes. Or have a complete fit over $25 that he wasn't even paying (he makes 6 figures). Or just use anger to get what he wanted (including sex).
Do you call behavior like that abusive?
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
