A lazy morning in the house before D and I leave for our overnight water park expedition. First thing, I respond to WWs late night text with this:
"Please don't insinuate that I'm a bad dad bc we both know that's not the case now. Her and I have had a ton of fun on two much more difficult days in the past 2 months."
W says when we go downstairs that was not what she meant. I just nod and keep moving. About 30 minutes before we go, W pulls me aside and breaks out the tears again. Says that she knows D is in good and capable hands with me but that she will miss her immensely. W knows that it's not healthy that she's so ingrained with D and she's having massive anxiety that she will be at house alone without D. She knows that I'm mad at her, but would I please send her updates so that she doesn't lose her mind. I tell her sure, validate a little, and I don't console her.
W was over the top in saying how she won't have anything to do while we are gone. That she's going to vacuum and hang out in her pjs. That she probably won't even leave the house. She went on and on about it yesterday and this morning. I think she's a horrible liar, but I'm not snooping anymore so who knows. Her sh&t to deal with.
D and I are having an amazing time at the water park! Did a ton of swimming and exploring. D even was brave enough to do a surfing simulator thing and did awesome! Brought a pizza back to the room for dinner. Did some wizard quest thing that was pretty fun and beat a dragon. Hit up the arcade and won a Pikachu in a claw game and got enough tickets for a "mega cute" wolf. (D was over the moon about the Pikachu). Did some bowling and had some chocolate ice cream. Snuggled and did iPad before bed. Had an AWESOME day!
Was slightly bummed about being on vacation with D for the first time without W but that feeling passed quickly. Really am having a great time! D is sleeping now and I'm sipping on a cold beer and unwinding. Realizing that if I have to, I can do the single parenting thing. It may not be to WWs demanding standards and routines, but I've got my own looser brand of parenting that works just as well. In a good place for now, though I don't expect that to last based on recent experience!
One thing I did do, sorry RSG, was give in a little on the updates. Told W we got here. Sent a picture of D at dinner. Sent a picture of D and I after we won Pikachu and eating our ice cream. Told W when D was asleep. Too much communication, I know. Not a permanent thing to do, but being the first time D is away from W outside the home I leaned toward not rocking the boat as much after last nights conversation. Next trip she gets minimal info. May be the wrong thing to do, but felt right to me this first time.
Waking up early tomorrow for more fun then Leaving after lunch. Such an awesome time getting D away from WW. Really a much different dynamic.
Fade, I need to think about your post. Will respond late tomorrow if that's ok. I appreciate your thoguhts! You're too JR! Everyone here is awesome and is share this beer with you if I could. Thanks everyone for your support!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
