Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #3]

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Starting Thread #3. Old threads: #1 & #2. I can't remember how I originally stumbled onto this website. This type of forgetfulness is the very thing that my W would roll her eyes at, the sentiment palpable: "How could you be so well educated but be such an idiot." I have no come-back.

Recap: it's all right there at the bottom, in my signature.

Soundtrack: "Loser" by Beck; "No One Said It Would Be Easy" by Sheryl Crowe; and "Keep On Loving You" by REO Speedwagon (yes, I'm a child of the 80's).

For your reading pleasure, I'd like to offer up a few things I've found uplifting and/or intriguing. Since I can't post URL's here, I'll just tell you the titles of the articles, which you can Google.

15 Ways to Be a Better Person by Anya Strzemien -- some good stuff in there about human relationships. I do about 7 out of 15, in other words, I give myself a D+.

The Wedding Toast I’ll Never Give by Ada Calhoun -- “'The way to stay married,' my mother says, 'is not to get divorced.'”

Unexcited? There May Be a Pill for That by Daniel Bergner -- "But for many women, the cause of their sexual malaise appears to be monogamy itself.... For women who’ve been with their partners between one and four years, a dive begins — and continues, leaving male desire far higher. (Within this plunge, there is a notable pattern: over time, women who don’t live with their partners retain their desire much more than women who do.)" The article cites Esther Perel, my guru, “'Many couples confuse love with merging,” she writes. “This mix-up is a bad omen for sex. To sustain élan toward the other, there must be a synapse to cross. Eroticism requires distance.'”

Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved -- a TED talk. "Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss."