NYGal: Together Again and Happy!

[MrBond]

"We are going to our 3rd counseling session tonight, as a matter of fact."

That's good. I think you should also see an C for yourself that's not your MC.

"So I'm just supposed to let it all go and not worry that W won't tell ow to stay away?"

Yes because you can't CONTROL what your W does. She has to be the one to come up with her actions.

"To me, that's leaving the door open to a friendship or something."

If you don't have your W make up her own mind as to what she really wants (you, OW, etc.), then if it's not this person it could be someone else down the line.

"Frankly, I guess I feel some need for revenge -- some way to see ow punished or in some way hurt by what she did. Instead, she's getting a big promotion and still thinks she can just claim her place next to my W."

The revenge is understandable. The OM in my sitch was much worse so I get it. But in the end I figured out that I was LETTING this OM have power over me and my action. Don't give her that power. The fact that your W has chosen you, is revenge enough.

"I don't know if I have what it takes to just let it go."

Then break it off with your W. That is in your control. If you don't want to let it go, then don't. All it's going to do is continue to eat you up. Everyone can learn to let things go. That's what your own C can help you do. It probably comes from somewhere else deep down in your past that has nothing to do with the OW.

"And as long as we all continue to work here, it will always be there. I can't escape it, and I feel like she's just laughing at me by continuing to seek out my W."

That's just you screwing around with your own head.