JRuss - it probably goes completely against everything in your heart but what if you "gave in"? She's had a pretty easy ride on your back for a while.
If she wants a D then there realistically is no reason why she can't move out this afternoon. You've got a good handle on the kids. What you might not have though is a handle on your rights. It worked for me and it sounds like it worked for some other people here but make sure you know your rights otherwise she and that fancy new IC will steam-roll right over you. In my case my W had her appt with a cheap L and after almost a month I've heard nothing.
Now you and I both know that going to the level of putting her stuff on the lawn isn't in the cards for you. One of the things that many of us struggle with is that we really can't "control" our spouse no matter how much we want to. They are adults with rights themselves and they can just tell us to go to h@ll if they don't like what we say. So - you've got a run-away nanny goat (sorry - goat theme today) who is headed for the berry patch - what would you do in that case? Troll? Buckshot? Move the berries onto a flatbed truck and drive away?
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