lt0402 -- I wish I had something productive to say. I continue to think that your wife is showing serious signs of having narcissistic control issues. Does it possibly make sense to calmly and firmly let her know that you do not agree to her evaluation of your relationship with your D, past or present, and that you will not tolerate her lying about it and using it against you? She's entitled to her feelings and opinions, but not the facts. And the facts are that you and your D are fine (W gave away her hand when she said D was really looking forward to your trip; kids don't look forward to anything with a parent with whom they have no trust or whatever else your W makes up about the two of you).
Just thinking aloud. Bottom line: I hope you have a fantastic time with your D. It will be a great and special trip.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)