You are surely right and eventually she will realise how unconnected she is with the kids. That is out of your control so I urge you to avoid focusing on what she is and isn't doing for them.

A move is a big decision, depending on the distance. You may need legal advice. Idk.

Weigh up the pros and cons of moving and make a decision.This needs to be void of the emotional baggage of your situation.OOtherwise you are just reacting and not for the best reasons.

I got to go. Best of luck.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together