Yes, I think for now it is best to drop the 'we're a unit' thinking. Do you really want to be a unit with someone currently behaving in that way?
I wouldn't even tell him you need to look after yourself and detach - just do those things for you. There can always be hope, but I would drop the expectations. He could have had some sort of awakening, or you could be in for another round of the same again - only time will tell.
I'm sorry to hear about the breast lump and good luck for your appointment tomorrow xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
