Dear Andrew, I will try to let it go to voicemail , he said he loves me and wants to help me find a place to buy and so we are having interactions . Since I quit my job June 1 to look after our daughter I would in no way qualify for the mortgage without his income .
Luv1589 - Welcome, I am glad you came here for support. This is a great place. Some of those whom have already answered you have been of tremendous assistance to me. I quoted you above. If I read that right, please tell me you are not considering buying property w/ a man who is stepping out and has actively left you for an OW twice? Stop that. Don't do that. Please elaborate on your thinking here...????And then no, the answer is no.
Next, you spend five minutes with my tag name in this place, you will find my open honesty about being a recovering narcotics addict. I will tell you this as it pertains to your story above. Yeah, the stress of your daughter using - that may have been a contributor to your WH's stress or a contribution for his behavior - it is not the cause. Also, the drugs did not make your D mentally ill. I promise you that. Addiction is a mental illness in and of itself and usually a predisposition from other mental illnesses. I assure you, I know what I am speaking about - 26 years of drug abuse, 4 years of serious addiction, I am not a joke on this matter.
Your D and your H are not related. Do not allow yourself to excuse or blame on for the other. If forced to choose, I would suggest you focus time on saving your daughter. Thats all I got for now. I want you to know, we all are here to help. Do the reading.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
