You said, "Unsure why she wants to talk so damn bad after treating me like sh$t the past 3 months".
It is frustrating to see men who won't stand up to their W treating them like a POS! Your WW has had no consequences for her continued acts of disrespect. Therefore, she has nothing but contemp.......and you don't understand why she wants to talk bad and treat you this way?
Apparently, you don't understand, or believe, that a woman cannot feel desire....admiration.....and love for her H, if she has no respect for him. She has no choice but to respect him first, before the loving feelings are felt. (Maybe tuck that under your hat for the next M). It's the make up of the female. Don't expect her to be wired the same as men are. None of asked to be this way.......but it is what it is (as many men like to put it).
I dare say every woman will test her H at some point in their R. Do you believe that much? They try a man to see if he is going to be stronger than she is. You might even say, (at least some) will push to see if he has the b@lls to put her in her place. If he doesn't.......then he has signed the death sentence of his marriage. Avoiding her and being passive, is not how a man needs to show his W he has the guts to stand up to her.
The sad thing about it is if a man would call her out the first time his W treated him disrespectfully, or rolled her eyes, stomped her foot, slammed doors, let out a heavy sigh of impatient, told the kids that daddy was dumb, yelled at him, put him down in front of others, or a hundred other ways........it could have been nipped it in the bud right then and her love would have increased ten fold. But, when men coward down under the skirts of their W and choose to be passive, instead of standing up....speaking up.....and commanding respect as her H and as the protector & leader over his family......then what do you expect?
Seriously, if there is no mutual respect, then what do you expect if you allow a person to treat you this way and you don't stop it? Has she had to face any consequences for her bad treatment toward you? You just aren't sure why she wants to treat you badly????
Her lack of respect has killed her love! And, you can thank yourself for allowing it. That goes for any man who thinks he's just going to wake up one morning to find his WW treating him like a respected husband. Respect is much like trust, once it is gone. It takes work getting it back again.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
