I'm sorry to read this Buxom. That's pretty blatant waywardness and I feel boundaries for you are paramount here. What is and isn't okay for you in your own home? What can you live and what can't you live with?

It may or may not be a breakthrough - time will tell and I would be suitably cautious, maintain clear boundaries and see what follow through there is. Yes, he has said many things, and whether he is able to follow through on those remains to be seen...

I would try not to worry about him too much just now. He's a grown up and needs to sort his own chit out if he's going to be able to be a suitable partner. He's far from that just now and time will tell.

But I think you're on the right track with exploring the codependent behaviour. Though I would stop mentioning you're working on it to him. Do it for you!

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