Yes, I would agree NYG. Anytime I see someone posting - I wish they would do this and they won't - it is always best to switch that to - what shall I do?

She may or may not choose to send a NC email to OW - that's up to her. What concerns me is that she isn't willing to take a necessary step towards helping you and your R heal.

So, given that - what next for you? Are you okay with putting your all into moving forward on this basis? From what you post about OW, you still feel raw about her (understandably) - but I don't think OW is the central issue here...

((((Hugs))))

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus