Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 3)

[JRuss]

I understand where "the duty" lies, but there isn't a lighthouse keeper alive who doesn't peek at the boats and make sure they aren't running aground, especially if its stormy.

I'm getting pretty f-ing tired of "my duty", frankly. Her "duty" was to try to work on our marriage, not act as judge and executioner before I ever got the courtesy of knowing anything about it.