With both of those said, if there's no hope, there's no hope. A lot of this relies on W waking up at some point and realizing this is not the right move. Then on top of that, she needs to be willing to work hard to fix things. If she's not willing to do that, then even w/ my D in the picture, it's a non-starter unfortunately. We'll just need to be civil, and active co-parents. [censored], but that's where most of us seem to be.
I'm starting not to think there's much hope for any of us. I think what I -- and maybe others here -- never really internalized/understood was that our marriages really were truly dead by the time we got the news. Not in trouble or even in deep trouble, but dead. We're trying to use those electric paddles on something that was DOA before it ever got to the ER.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
