Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #2]

[lt0402]

Wow, a lot of great responses to that question. I'm fighting for my W bc of two things:

1) I'm not willing to introduce the uncertainty a divorce brings into the life of my D9 without a fight. I know it's far from certain that a divorce will put her in a worse spot, but if there's something I can do to salvage the M and remove all that uncertainty, I'm surely going to try. But salvaging the M means a lot more than just having a M on paper. It means fixing all these issues w/ myself and my W that have been lurking under the surface for years. Without that, there's no benefit in my mind to being in the M solely for my D.

2) I just flat out still love my W. Don't get me wrong, I don't love this current version of my W, but if there's any chance of getting back the previous version I'd definitely fight for that. A lot of damage has been done w/ my whole situation, but no one I've spoken with yet views it as un-fixable, except for my W. I hold out hope that I can rekindle what we once had and for now am working DB'ing to see if it can get us up off the mat.

With both of those said, if there's no hope, there's no hope. A lot of this relies on W waking up at some point and realizing this is not the right move. Then on top of that, she needs to be willing to work hard to fix things. If she's not willing to do that, then even w/ my D in the picture, it's a non-starter unfortunately. We'll just need to be civil, and active co-parents. [censored], but that's where most of us seem to be.