Really struggling with this new development of her getting an IC who has a track record helping women navigate Ds and "other major life events". How does one overcome that? It's like validation squared, when you pay for it, and there's a diploma on the wall telling you its ok to walk away from a 20+ year relationship.

Is there a tactic here I should be using?

Me: 46
W: 44
Married: 17
Together 21
D13; S10
BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you)
Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage
Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)