What are you doing to GAL and to be responsible for your own happiness? The more you work on that, the more unavailable you will seem, without needing to be cold or dodging your responsibilities. It will probably feel like acting at first, but the more you do it, the more you will find moments when you are fully into that and forget about her. Someone who is passionate about interests and internally happy and confident is very attractive. Not to mention a lot happier person to be!
My main GAL are getting/staying fit, volunteering (hospital and Habitat for Humanity), reading again (had really stopped when my depression stepped up its game), trying to connect more with friends (slow going, but making some progress) and getting the kids out of the house and doing things. I am really enjoying this but am also guilty of checking over my shoulder to see if she's noticed. Unavailability is a really hard thing to communicate when you sleep 2" from someone!
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
