Not sure if you are religious at all, but there's a great daily reflection out there that I've been reading daily. Unfortunately forum rules don't let me publish a link or name it, but go to your favorite online store and search for separation reflection and see what comes up.
BTW if you decide to confirm the PA, be very careful about how you do it... for me I think it backfired big time and pushed her further away as I shattered the trust between us. Yes I know it's already shattered with your W, but trust is a two way streak.
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17