Birthday party- I sucked it up and we did it together. We both pitched in to help and manage the chaos. I did this for my daughter...not me. Now she is abit older but I would view this as taking one for the team. IF you can do it, be there just for your son, and not try to engage in anythign else with your W, then do it. Hard decision...but keep their happiness in mind If you think you will unravel all your work, figure out how you can make S4 happy with doing something too for his birthday maybe just with you guys.
I am also having to text/deal with my STBX more than I want to with custody already. And its month 1 formally. I am sticking to the plan.....I will actually say YES to her if/when I can to have more time with my daughter. And if in your spot, would ask to get those nights /days back to spend with the kids rather than just cave.....
_________________________ Me-48 Spouse-WAW 52 Married for 10 years D7 ILYBNILWY 7/15 Suspect EA/PA 12/15 No confirmation/denial She files 1/2016 Working towards the Big D ...still in progress....
