Out of in house S - On My Own (11)

[vise82]

Hey,

Had a really good time with the kids. I think I over did it as they were asking to just go home and relax.

Took them swimming, to a dairy for ice cream, to a petting farm, to a skate park, and finally on a bike ride.

The next day we stayed in till noon for the kid exchange.

W as in and out of her house as I dropped kids off. I had to wait for her to come out before I said good bye and left.

Then a couple of hours later she sends a text asking if we are going to do a birthday party for S4. Sent it twice.

I have not responded. I don't know what to say.

Is this bread crumbs, temp checking?

How should I respond?

I was thinking of not doing a birthday party together. We have not done anything together since we when out for her birthday dinner in June.

So my reply was going to be we have not done anything as a family since we physically split houses why would that change for S4 birthday?

Also I think Its for myself, I have done some work to detach and I think having this party together would unravel all that work.

Also a couple of hours later she asks if I would give up one of my days and two nights with the kids so that W dad could take the kids for a camping weekend. W will be out of town that weekend and I was to cover her day.

I am having trouble knowing what to do. Its easier for me to follow the rule book, S agreement. It feels way easier and I don't feel like I am getting taken advantage of and I avoid conflict if I say no.