What should I be doing (Working toward D 9)

[Coconut]

I think I said I'm past trying to save the M... I meant that I'm not actively trying to save my marriage, and I don't sit around trying to figure out how I might be able to. Now if she came to me and said I quit the fire department, I can't believe what I've done to our family and I'm willing to do whatever needs to be done to be happily M to you, then I would do whatever I could/needed to save the M, but I'm past thinking that might ever happen.

What I focus on now is what I need to do in ending the marriage, to prepare myself for post D life..