Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #2]

[JRuss]

AndrewP -- I tell myself I'm doing it for the kids, and that's certainly true. Some kids do perfectly well in a divorce scenario, but a lot of them don't. They are endangered by what my W says she wants, and I fight for the M, in part, because I can't anymore sit here and let them be endangered in this way than I can let any other known danger menace them.

But it is also for me. If I didn't still love my W and believe very strongly that we could get through this period and emerge on the other side in something we both could enjoy and thrive in, I would likely not be fighting. I'd still be very scared that my kids would be $#@%ed up by the divorce, but I'd have already given in, I think.

Now, where the one stops and the other starts, I'm not sure. Do I overstate my child-protection efforts because I don't want to face full-on the fact that I'm chasing a woman who doesn't want me? Probably some of that going on, if I'm honest.