Funny thing is W asked me if we could go do something like see a movie tonight to get out and away from the kids.
I'm going to go and use it as a chance to get out myself, and hopefully enjoy a show. A movie means there won't be much communication, so that's not a bad thing. We'll see how it goes, but not seeing it for more than anything as a chance to get out.
Then it changed to dinner and movie. Then it went from dinner & movie to holding hands.
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Had a decent evening on Friday night. My wife had asked if we could get dinner and a movie in honor of our Anniversary. I agreed, and it was an enjoyable time. We held hands a bit during the movie, and it felt somewhat normal.
And finally, it went to this:
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Unfortunately, things fell apart from there. We had a bit of blow up on Saturday, not really ready to talk about that, but ended up with my W sleeping in one of my daughters bedrooms. Then yesterday, she came home from work, and suddenly had to go out to the store. She was gone for a couple of hours, and I snoopped and found she was at OM's house. That part doesn't suprise me, I figured it would happen sooner or later, but after an emotional weekend that made me question my feelings on proceeding to D, that was the last thing I needed to see.
So, using the excuse to go to dinner and a movie, was just for you to get out.........had some emotional expectations. The entire thing sounds like a date, including holding hands.
Can anyone say, TEMP CHECK? Oh yes, and, big time!
So now, it goes from whatever happened in the blow out......to telling the lawyer to get started on paperwork. And guess what? You are already having expectations as to how your W will react.
((lmf))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!