Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 3)

[JRuss]

Paradigmatic weekend for me. Saturday AM starts off with W-initiated LM, so that was pretty great, although confusing. Get up, have some coffee, W joins me on the porch before the kids get up, and W mentions that she's going to go IC this week. I'm thinking, hmmm, that could be positive. I've felt all along that she has certain fundamental internal problems and issues that cause her to look at me and scapegoat our relationship as the reason for those things, and maybe she could start working through it all and start .

But then she tells me who the IC is, and she reminds me that it's the IC her $%#& echo chamber validator friend used "when she was going through her divorce".

So, that's great. Go spend our money getting a more expensive version of your validating $%&* friends and emerge on the other side strong enough to do what's best for you. Wonderful.