Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #2]

[ForGump]

Albac-- I think you understand this, but just so I'm clear, I definitely did not feel like we were a normal family. We were civil, and at a few times even friendly to each other, but it was very clear that we were not "together," and I'm sure neither me nor my WW was any delusion that we were, although there were a few small bits of cake eating. If I think about it, it breaks my heart, as I want my kids to have nothing but Mommy and Daddy that love each other. Just a few short months ago we were very affectionate to each other, and our kids used to tease us for being so affectionate. The adults in the other families on the trip also knew what we were going through. (It was a day trip, albeit a long one). I would guess our kids perceived subconsciously the separation between me and my W, but on the surface they probably did not see anything abnormal.

I am prepared to let my W go. But it just eats me up to do this to my kids.

I'm still hazy on what a "family" should be like. I want to assure my kids that after the divorce, we will still be a family in the sense that my wife and I will work together to co-parent. But obviously the four of us won't be a single unit, and won't do everything together.