I'm sorry! That is awful. He is lost right now and you cannot believe anything that he says. He doesn't even know what he means, thinks, feels anymore. As much as you care for him and may know what help he needs, he has to help himself. We cannot save anyone but ourselves and our young children.
What I love about DB philosophy is it is as much about breaking codependency as it is about saving the M. Most of us got here because over the course of the M we developed unhealthy attachments. We cannot have a good R with someone until both people become heathy and strong again independently.
So help yourself now during this hard time. Let him see how much you value your own health and happiness. Rally it all--lean on your support people, keep posting here, find a good therapist for you, and take a giant step back from him. He has got to learn to take care of himself before you want to be in a M with him anyhow.
-Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
