I have no idea what you hoped to accomplish with that exchange. It doesn't show anything about trying to talk sense into anyone. What it shows is that if you start a conversation with a long-winded statement that talks down to the person you are communicating with, they will not be receptive to hearing what you are saying.
Neither of you seems to want a divorce, but at the moment you don't want to stay married enough to tolerate her continued participation in FF, and she doesn't want to stay married enou to quit FF.
Continuing to engage in these kind of exchanges is doing no good. It makes it less likely she would give up FF to stay with you.
Just leave.
Maybe the separation will lead one or both of you to new insights, but at the very least it will stop exchanges like this.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
