I should include today's activites - Son and I cleaned up the garage and storage unit to prepare for my furniture and things being delivered tomorrow morning (I was amazed they deliver on Sundays!). I'm starting to look forward to getting it.
Then I chatted online with WH's (previously very hostile) exW for well over 2 hours.
We have sent a few messages back and forth lately and happened to be online at the same time. A lot of things came out. I already knew that WH cheated on her with OW early on in their R (this is over 30 years ago). She now also told me she found them together at a party 3 years later, the year she and WH got married, when she was out looking for him one night.
WH and OW were drunk and took off in his car. She tried to follow them but couldn't keep up. He called her the next morning from a payphone and eventually came home.
I wonder why WH and OW couldn't just get it together and stop dragging other people into their Bonnie & Clyde act.
We have very similar experiences with our M's to WH. Except he behaved much, much better toward me for most of the time than it sounds like he ever did toward her. She feels he's a sociopath while I feel he's a narcissist. We exchanged words of sympathy and compassion.
It was pretty intense but enlightening.
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
