My wife and I were together since 1989, then in 1990 I, in a dramatic way(long story) became a Christian, my wife came along but didn't have the same enthusiasm as I did, I came from a rough drug taking life style and I was just so happy at what God had done in my life, yet I was still young and ignorant.
The church we were saved into was an ultra conservative Pentecostal church where women did not cut hair at all, no make up, no jewellery, only long dresses but my wife goes along with it but tries to express how she disagrees, how do I respond? " can't you just get with the program? All the other girls do! then in 93 we get married, off course no dancing at our wedding " because you only dance as unto the Lord" and this for a the girl who always loved to dance even as a little girl in her "spinning dress" All this together with my lack of true love for the real her led her to fall into the affair... I get it. In 97 we finally left and joined a church more suited to us.
Just thought I'd share that so you could understand my wife's affair wasn't just a girl gone wild thing.
Hi Tony -
I've seen a fair amount of life and there is no judgment here with what either of you have or haven't done or will do. Many of us have a convoluted path to get to our best selves -- we often get there and leave it and come back again. The beauty is - you're in there trying or you wouldn't be here.
I have faith you two will work this out.
Create the path back to your family for her. It isn't easy, but you're right, it's probably necessary. Btw, she will love the strong man in you for working that out.
There are probably people here that have been through it - likely even sandi2, she's pretty darn wise.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
