So great to hear from you, you help so many here. It really is your ministry.
We aren't divorced at this stage. My wife engaged a lawyer over a year and half ago and let me know what her demands are in terms of property settlement, I, right or wrong have always said that if she were to go down the route of settlement that I would let go and move on...she put it on hold. Because she did I pursued but not in a graceful, patient way, rather a needy desperate spirit, we went out 3-4 times, on the last occasion we end up in an argument, mainly due to my impatience ( great movie, but didn't help that I had watched War Room! Wanted my wife to fight in that fashion)
Sandi, truth is my wife is a good woman, she likes to be truthful, when she expressed that she found it hard to love me she did in a gentle way not wanting to hurt me. I believe she REALLY DOES want to love me but doesn't now how to bring feelings back....I finally understand that.
Unfortunately my sons reaction took us on an unforeseen path.
Twice my wife has said, in tears, " why did you have to tell your family" about our problems even though I did many months later ( I still haven't told them about the affair 20 years ago) only 1 close mutual friend. The reason I mention this Sandi is because my wife cut ties with all my family and all our friends she feels that everyone is siding with me and because she is concerned with what everyone thinks of her I believe this is a MASSIVE road block to coming back. She has said that " l wish I hadn't said anything in the beginning" so sad.
Current status is I do believe there is hope however with a huge mountain to climb, she could easily settle the property and move on especially give the fact that she really needs the money but she hasn't. She is moving into a new rented unit this week so said she really needs space to take care of that and to think. I offered to help her but said that its all sorted. Just giving her that space now.
God bless you Sandy for pouring out of yourself for others
