I'm going to try to post like a sane person this time:-) I have some single friends who would like to get M and have children. They are late 30s. A couple of them spent many, many years with men who flat out said, "I don''t know if I want to get married or have kids." And now that these women finally ended those relationships after years, they want to know where all of these "good" guys are. I think we occasionally think that when we are ready, whatever we are looking for will be there. Unfortunately, that isn't the case. And while there are many fantastic single people, some just aren't either a) interested in a relationship or b) not relationship material.
I can't speak for the women you chat with (and my guy friends don't OLD), but some of the women I know try to date like they did when they were 22. He's perfect except he's not tall enough! He's great but he's bald! I've never met anyone better but I like guys with tattoos!! Get my point? I'm sure some men do this too. Like I said, I don't online date however, I can see where someone falls into the trap of thinking they are viewing a catalog of potential mates. It's really just another tool to meet someone. Heck, my ex SIL met her ex h in ICU. (Nope. Not a typo). I know someone who met her h at a garage sale. It's not the norm but it is a reminder that people do meet in person. I'm a total nerd and I believe I read from the Pew Institute that 92% of marriages are because of IRL meetings. Yes, I also know people who have met online and gotten married as well.
Keep your options open and don't be afraid to just meet someone even if she doesn't check the boxes. Just my 2 cents.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
